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Do you sometimes think that you're the only person stuck in a bad marriage or that your marriage issues are something no one else could ever understand?  While certainly your relationship is as unique as you and your partner are, very often most marriage and their problems boil down to a few common problems.  Let's take a look at common marriage issues and see if you don't recognize you and your spouse in these scenarios.

One of the most common marriage issues that couple face is not that there are huge problems or conflicts between them but that they've allowed themselves to drift apart over the years.  When a couple is first dating and first married, they're usually each other's top priority.  But after some years in marriage and some children, they allow these other responsibilities as well as their jobs and just plain laziness get between them.  This often leads to other more serious marriage issues as they can start to feel like just roommates or downright strangers.  A good way to get around this is to make certain plans to spend time together alone or with other couples, without children and without interruptions.  Don't assume that this time should be spontaneous; this is a common mistake for many.  And remember that you don't always need to be hashing out your marriage issues during this time together either.  Spend it doing something enjoyable and something that will help to pull you together, not continue to tear you apart.  This is why it's okay to have another couple along as sometimes being with other people can keep you on your best behavior and keep the conversation enjoyable.

Other common marriage issues deal with child raising and how to spend the family's money.  Usually these things boil down to a viewpoint that one way is right and the other way is wrong.  In reality, there is usually no right way or wrong way to raise children, provided there is no abuse present.  Whether they should go to bed at a certain time or at a set bedtime, whether or not they should eat when hungry or at mealtimes - none of these ideas are right and none are wrong.  Most marriage issues revolve around parents thinking their way is the right way and this drives a wedge between the two.  If you give up on the idea that your way is right and therefore your spouse's way is wrong, and realize this doesn't mean you're wrong either, then you realize that compromise and adjustments can be made.  Other marriage issues also boil down to one spouse wanting their way over the other spouse's way and this too can be dangerous.  Both spouses need to compromise and meet in the middle for many of the marriage issues they face.  So consider if any of these things might apply to you and how you're approaching your marriage and see if perhaps some adjustments might need to be made.

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