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Anyone looking for some relationship help has a wide variety of options open to them.  You can write into an advice columnist, you can open the phone book and choose a marriage counselor, you can cry to friends, you can rent movies that are about people just like you, or you can call your mom and talk to her.  With so many options available when it comes to relationship help, how can you be sure you're getting the right help?  And by the way, what do we mean by the "right" help?

It's true that you may have a wide circle of friends and family that are ready with all sorts of advice when it comes to relationship help, but really, how sound and practical is that advice?  Often your friends and family tell you what you want to hear.  If you want to hear that your partner is causing all the problems, they're likely to tell you just that.  If you want to hear that you're justified in your own actions, they'll tell you that even if it's not true.  And of course friends and family are often getting only one side of the story!  Obviously they may not be in a position to offer sound and practical relationship help to anyone, not if your real goal is to salvage the relationship.  Sometimes what a person needs by way of relationship help is going to hurt them a little bit - they need to hear about their own shortcomings and what they're doing to make the situation worse, even if that's something of a bitter pill to swallow.  But often when someone says that they're looking for " relationship help," what they're really looking for is someone to tell them that they're fine and their partner needs to make all the changes and do all the work.  Obviously this just isn't practical and useful and won't accomplish anything by way of actually salvaging that relationship.

You can of course write to an advice columnist or buy self-help books, and sometimes certain books or the advice of those you see on television are practical and useful, if you can see yourself in the advice they're giving.  But often real relationship help means something more personal and involved than all of that.  One book usually gives advice a certain slant that the author feels is appropriate and that particular slant might not be applicable in your case. 

Often real relationship help is found in the form of a good counselor that can listen to both sides and can give advice to both.  A good counselor won't be afraid to point out mistakes that they're both making and will be able to explain things in a way that both sides understand.  And working with a counselor for relationship help will also mean work done over time.  Few relationships can be salvaged in a few days or weeks, so long-term assistance is usually best for most couples.

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