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You might be thinking that at this point in time, quick tips for saving your marriage are not going to help you whatsoever.  It's true that for some marriages, serious counseling may be in order and some problems are going to take a lot more to solve than just a few simple tips and suggestions.  But very often a few small changes and adjustments can go a long way toward saving your marriage, so why not give them a try?

If you're truly interested in saving your marriage, tell yourself that divorce is not an option. In some extreme cases such as abuse then certainly it should be considered, but in most cases if you give yourself the option of divorce you're more likely to head down that path.  By taking that option away you're more likely to do the work necessary to repair your relationship.  Also remember that saving your marriage may take time.  You might think that the first time you compromise or after a nice weekend of long conversations then everything should be perfect, but a good marriage is built over time.  Your work will get easier as time goes on but it won't happen right away either.

Making time for each other, without interruption and without children, is also a key factor when it comes to saving your marriage.  Very often couples don't have major issues or problems that are tearing them apart but have simply drifted apart because of allowing other responsibilities to get in the way.  They too might feel that time together should be spontaneous and if they schedule this time it will seem forced and unnatural.  In reality this just isn't true.  While spontaneous moments together are fine and appreciated, you often do need to make plans for each other if you're interested in saving your marriage.  This is much like when you were dating - you might have had a special concert or other date planned weeks in advance.  You took all day to get ready and put a lot of effort into your time together.  When it comes to saving your marriage, you shouldn't expect any less effort and commitment. 

Sometimes too you'll need to give up a few things; this might mean actual physical things but typically refers to getting your own way and having things down your way.  This is crucial when it comes to saving your marriage as no one wants to live with someone that's selfish all the time.  Why should your spouse want to be around you if you just stubbornly insist on getting your way all the time?  That's not much of a marriage for him or her.  Both partners giving in a little is important, and saving your marriage will mean doing your part in this as much as he or she does.

While all of this might sound like a lot of work, in the end saving your marriage and having a good relationship will be well worth it. 

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